Dear All,
I come before you from a perspective where I have witnessed things getting messy and hopes getting crushed. And also have watched few friends going through one of the most heartbreaking processes of life – Divorce of their parents. Nope, I won’t tell you that it happened for a reason or what happens, happens for good because that would mean that you have no right to feel the pain you are feeling right now. You have every right to get angry, feel wronged and devastated. After all, the two most precious people in your life are going separate ways. You might reminisce about all the happy memories you had together and tear up at the emptiness. You would feel like giving up everything and anything to have one more moment together with the way it was before.
But have you once thought that maybe for your happiness the cracks in their relationship were always hidden? The scars were covered with veils of smiles so that you remain unaffected and at last, the dam is broken where you see the brutal truth. Or maybe you have seen them quarrel along the whole time and knew this moment was inevitable and questioned yourself as to why you of all people. Or maybe a situation arose where your existence was blamed for the entire event. That my friend is the most suffocating feeling, to be said as the reason for their unhappiness.
If through talks and counseling, things are resolved, the scars are hard to fade. The entire ordeal will leave you a lifetime of don’t-want-to-remember- memories. If divorce is inevitable, then you feel like the whole world has been crushed from which you don’t want to get up anymore. Choosing side is another reminder that you will not have something which others will. Self-loathe, loneliness and much more eat you inside out and you just want to give up.
You are right in feeling all of that, You every right to feel so harshly wronged but the only thing you can do then is wait patiently until you can let them go. After all, seeing your own parent remain in the unhappy marriage for you will only give you wrong perspective on love and marriage. And don’t you think they deserve little happiness of their own each?
