The ‘her’ in the title refers to all the girls and women out there, including the ones reading it. Since the very beginning, a girl’s life has been different from a boy’s in various aspects, be it emotional, physical, social, or mental. Some whole-heartedly welcomed girls as their daughters, cousins, and nieces and some understood them as a burden. Although, openly welcomed and appreciated by the family, living in a society is not a child’s task for a girl. The conditioning of our environment has not been the best one. Certain rules, definitions, and standards have been set since times immemorial and some are being followed still.
I can write paragraphs explaining the condition of women and how they suffer even at the highest peaks of their lives where they are self-sufficient and smart. But the need of the hour is not a harangue, but it is to bring change instead. A fierce urge to let the world stop telling women what to do and what not to. As people of a society where women are referred to as goddesses in holy books and are worshipped as Saints, we need to realize that this is not just fiction. We need not have pity for her struggles and circumstances. We need to redefine the meaning of her existence which is not bound to the kitchen or the laundry area.
Now, what can make that change possible? That is a new perspective on viewing a woman’s life. She has been compulsorily given some roles which she has to fulfil or the consequences will be drastic. The need is to stop giving her the role of being compliant without her choice or for that matter, any role as long as she does not desire that. We as a respectable and reasonable society need to understand that a woman has her control over her own life. The domination and oppression of any kind are simply harassment which in turn becomes an endless cycle of resentment, torture, and hurt. A woman has all the right to lead her life the way she wants as a man does, what’s important here is that the community recognizes women and men as equals. Only then will the world a better place for women to live in.
“Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong, it’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.” ~ G.D. Anderson